Posts tagged ‘women’

4 Guys You Should Date


After the responses I got from Cosmo’s Best Places To Meet Men, I decided to continue my attack on the magazine.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great magazine for the beach or plane trip, but it’s so superficial and it ignores all the real issues.  So with that said, let’s take a look at what Cosmo calls “Four Guys You Think You Should Date…but Shouldn’t!” and my reasons why you should.

Guy #1: The Adrenaline Junkie

Cosmo describes these men as guys that will do “anything for that rush.”  They’ll go skydiving, run with the bulls, or anything else that sparks fear in most people.  I, myself, have a fear of heights, so getting me on a ferris wheel is a huge accomplishment.  Yet there is a reason for me and others to date someone like this…it gets us out of our comfort zone.  They’ll add some spice to your life and get you to do something that in their mind is mild like surfing or the NASCAR experience.  Even if you just have the chance to date a guy like this once, do it and I swear you won’t regret it (I don’t).

Guy #2: Nice Guy with a Chip on His Shoulder

These are the nice guys deep down but for one reason or another they spend most of their time picking on others.  This is one type of guy most of us probably dated in high school.  You dated them until you realized how much of a loser they are for tooling on other people all the time.  This is one guy Cosmo actually got right.

Guy #3: Smooth Operator

These are the Casanovas.  They have lots of confidence and give girls lots of attention, and obviously you’re never the only one they’re looking at.  But if you’re looking for fun, they’re it.  They take you out for scorpion bowls, throw great Halloween parties, or just say lines like “why are you a zero when you can be with a hero” (yes that line was used on me by a smooth operator).  They’re not great for a serious relationship, but they’re someone everyone needs to date in time.

Guy #4: Workaholic Hotshot

These guys work all the time, so they’re pretty loaded.  So it’s important to understand you will be the second love in their life because money will always be first.  If you want someone to shower you with gifts and expensive dinners this guy will do it.  He’ll make you feel special at moments and like dirt the next (hey, that’s starting to sound like most relationships).  If you want arm candy, he’s a good choice.  But if you want more of a reason to date him other than to show him off to your friends, I’d suggest someone who will put in the time.  So maybe Cosmo got this one right too….damn them.

In my experience I’ve dated guys like all of ones listed above.  I’m glad I got a wide variety in the mix, but other than that they just make good memories.  I guess the point of this post is to say you’ll only know what you want by finding out what you don’t.  So get out there and date guys you wouldn’t ordinarily and for me that could mean dating “nerds.”


March 18, 2008 at 1:30 pm 2 comments



No I’m not talking about the animals, I’m talk about these types of chameleons.  I guess everyone does it when their in middle school.  Whether you’re a prep, goth, jock, music geek, etc. you just trying to fit in a mold.  But the saddest part is that for some this has extended into the dating realm.

Many people change their looks and personality to catch the “perfect” date.  And for some it’s depressing to see how far they will go.  I just finished reading this book, and this is exactly what the main character does.  She has one boyfriend who is living off hand outs so she’ll change her attire to jeans, tees, and sneakers when she’s with him.  When she’s with her other boyfriend, who is a mulit-millionaire, she finds herself in only the finest designer names.  Of course this book is fiction, but I’ve seen it recently in real life too. 

Too many people are afraid to lose something just because they’ve had it for so long.  It might not be the best relationship for them, but to them they don’t want to have to say they’ve wasted the past few months of their life.  So instead they just try to fit in, and I see them as different people when they are with me as opposed to their significant other.  Why are so many people afraid to be themselves?  Are they really that horrible?  I hope not and I don’t think so. Sooner or later your bf/gf will find out who you really are, and they’re going to wonder why you’ve been keeping yourself a secret.  They may even go a step further to ask: “What are they still hiding?”  Being a chameleon makes many more issues than it solves.

January 30, 2008 at 8:40 am 3 comments

The Difference Between Men and Women

Let’s say you’re seeing someone, and they already like you, but now you want to make them fall head over heels…what do you do?  That’s where I come in.  There’s a sure fire tatic for both men and women. 

When it comes to men, they love it when you boost their ego, and nothing does this better then letting them be a man!  Even if you can open that pickle jar yourself, don’t do it.  When you’re out at night in a somewhat deserted place, tell them you’re scared for your life.  Or if you’re having computer issues let them take a look at it, because they, as men, should be able to fix it.  They love fitting the typical man role: a savior in his woman’s life.

If it’s a woman you’re seeing there’s only one thing you need to know: women love nothing more than to talk about themselves.  If she’s going on and on about her family, her friends, her job, etc….just let her go.  Ask questions, even if you’re not really interested, to light her fire.  Although I know this, I cannot resist the urge to talk about myself.

If this doesn’t work, I don’t think anything will.  So give it a try!

January 23, 2008 at 8:26 am 3 comments