Posts tagged ‘style’

Getting Out and Getting Ahead


I’ve been doing some research on the comfort zone and found many lists of things you can to do to get out of it.  On these lists were some things I’ve already tried:

  • Try some new food
  • Smile at strangers
  • Say hello to people in the grocery store
  • Use public transportation
  • Wear an outrageous outfit
  • Start a blog
  • I’ve tried sushi and caviar recently.  I’d eat sushi again, it was pretty good, but caviar was so slimy and salty that I think I can live without it.  I smile at strangers all the time, whether I’m in the grocery store or on the RIPTA, especially little kids because they’re so cute.  I’ve even talked to some people on the bus (One lady was on her way to her daughters house and another girl was going to school downtown, both were lost and needed directions).  Just the other day I wore what I considered to be an outrageous outfit: sweatpants.  When my roommate saw me she asked if I was going to the gym because she knows that I normally dress up for class.  I was kind of insulted, but I just rolled with it and said I felt like being a scrub.  And of course, this blog is here to document it all.

    Over the next few days I’ll be out of town, so I apologize in advance, but I have a few things to work on in the mean time.  On these lists were also things I want to try:

    • Compliment three strangers each day for a week
    • Take responsibility for something you didn’t do
    • Act more feminine (this is my own add on)

    It might seem that complimenting people is easy, but with strangers that’s a whole new game.  It’s only thing to say something nice to a friend, but it’s completely different to go up to someone random and not seem like a freak. 

    For me, taking responsibility for something I didn’t do, will be to take the fall for someone else or to just admit to something that I don’t think is a big admission.  For example, let’s say you’re arguing with a friend because you just ate the rest of her peanut butter.  Instead of wasting time arguing about it (which in female ways is very passive aggressive little movements and mutterings under your breath), I’ll woman up and just admit it…so many things can be avoided this way. 

    And lastly, being more feminine is something I always strive for, but I’ve been slacking lately.  I’ve been reading some articles about the feminine qualities in a woman’s voice; this is very important.  Sometimes it’s not what you say, but how you say it that’s more important.  Also you can’t forget the accessories.  I often don’t bother to change my earrings before going out, or I forget to spray some perfume on.  It’s not because I don’t have earrings or perfume, it’s just not on my mind.  Wearing clothes to show off your figure, and picking the right materials is also crucial.  So when I have a choice to wear jeans or a dress, I’m picking the dress.  Or if it’s a decision of a lacy top or tshirt, it’s gonna be the lacy top.  I already embrace the Betty Crocker way of life, I love to cook and share that.  And have things like purple pens and pink post-its.  So it’s not like it’s not in me, sometimes it just gets hidden in the shuffle.  I’ll be back to report in a few days, till then your suggestions are wanted.


    February 22, 2008 at 2:25 pm 4 comments

    Her Own Style


    Today I was talking to a friend about his girlfriend’s fashion.  She dresses one way for work and then completely different when she goes out.  In a post on an old blog of mine, I discussed this issue.  I think it’s important to stay who we are no matter where we go.  She if she wants to wear bohemian style dresses to work, she should.  Or if she thinks business attire is good all the time, she should.  It’s important to just be confident in what you wear, because that confidence with exude from you and will permeate others (also in another old post).  So my advice to you my friend is to like her for who she is or else this will just stay a problem for the future.

    For example, if you’re bf/gf always wears a really old pair of falling apart sneakers.  My guess is you’re not gonna love it.  But if you really like them, you’ll understand what those shoes mean to them.  So instead of starting a big fight, just trying explaining that you know what those sneakers mean to them, but that there are times and places for them.  It’s a good idea to wear them around the house, when doing errands, etc.  But not a good idea to wear them out to dinner, going to the theater, etc.  There’s no need to change a person’s wardrobe for them to fit into the mold you’ve made for them.

    February 7, 2008 at 3:51 pm 10 comments