Posts tagged ‘Boyfriend’


My thoughts lately have been: if you keep your expectations low you’ll never be disappointed.  Because, let me be honest, I usually get carried away and start day dreaming of how great things will be.  But recently I changed my mindset and expectations, and hoped this wouldn’t happen. 

On Friday we had a senior semi event and for most school events I hype myself up just to realize how it never is what I picture in my head.  So this time I had extremely low expectations, but my theory didn’t pan out.  There were lines 20 people deep for alcohol, coat check, getting on the bus, getting into the event, etc.  Overall it just wasn’t anywhere close to what it should have been.

Also in personal relationships, you also have expectations for friends, family, and bfs/gfs.  I always thought my mom knew me pretty well until she gave me chocolate for valentines day (gummy worms/bears is where it’s at).  I mean you would think after 21 years she’d get that right.  Basically you expect to get back what you put in, and when you don’t, you get frustrated.  And right now that’s where I stand.  I feel like I’m doing all I can and it’s still not enough for some.  So I have no choice but to throw my hands up in the air and walk away.  In my eyes, nothing is easier to give than your time, and if you can’t do that, there’s no point to keep things going.  So be there for you friends, family, bfs/bfs, otherwise what you think is going on will be very different from reality.


February 13, 2008 at 7:44 am 2 comments

Doing Too Much


The way I feel about myself cuz I got self-esteem, sometimes I wonder if I’m just chasing a fantasy

I’m not sure if I’ve told you before, but I love to people watch.  And a favorite place of mine for this is our school’s cafeteria, especially on Saturday or Sunday mornings.  Any time after a night out is a great time to people watch.

I was eating lunch there the other day when I overheard a guy talking to his mom, he was complaining about taking girls out on dates.  He went on about how to take girls to a nice place, which according to him girls expect, it costs way too much to do it too often.  Apparently his gf and him had a fight about this, which is why he was telling his mom.  The gf didn’t understand why spending money on her was such a bad thing.  He tried to reason with the girl by saying, “if you stay with me, you’ll thank me when we’re sixty.”

I think most guys and girls would agree that going out doesn’t need to be extravagant, but every once in a while is nice.  It was just interesting to see this guy get so irritated over the subject.  Am I seeing this right, or do girls expect this time of treatment all the time?  I need your opinion blog readers.

February 5, 2008 at 8:27 am 4 comments

Hey Jealousy

The past is gone but something might be found to take its place…hey jealousy

~Gin Blossoms

In relationships, jealousy is the most powerful emotion (I realized this after reading this post on first date dc).  It’s part love part hate and together they form a mighty combination.  The only problem is that you have to know how to use it.  Once you know you have this great power, it’s easy to abuse.  However, abusing it won’t get you anywhere, instead you have to instill a difficult balancing act.  With that being said, let me show you some examples. 

The obvious example is to talk to another person of the opposite sex when you’re out with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but we can do better than that.  Let’s say you get a phone call, on most dates (if the person means anything to you) you don’t answer, but if him or her is doing the obvious (stated above) you answer.  And when he/she asks you who it is, the best thing you can say is “a friend.”  “A friend” is a critical answer.  It leaves much to desire: was it really just a friend? was it an ex? was it someone they like?…etc.  It gets the mind running which in turn sparks the jealousy flame.  You turn them against themselves by changing the context, which is the key to winning any argument.

Another example, you just broke up with your bf/gf but instead of staying in and mopping you go out.  You see him/her across the bar, but you’re talking to someone else.  So instead of talking to you, your ex asks your friend about the situation (is that her/his new guy/girl? why is he hanging out with her? is she mad at me?).  And what does your friend come back with: “I don’t know,” and now the flame is lit.  So next time you’re in one of these situations, try it.

February 2, 2008 at 2:14 pm 2 comments



No I’m not talking about the animals, I’m talk about these types of chameleons.  I guess everyone does it when their in middle school.  Whether you’re a prep, goth, jock, music geek, etc. you just trying to fit in a mold.  But the saddest part is that for some this has extended into the dating realm.

Many people change their looks and personality to catch the “perfect” date.  And for some it’s depressing to see how far they will go.  I just finished reading this book, and this is exactly what the main character does.  She has one boyfriend who is living off hand outs so she’ll change her attire to jeans, tees, and sneakers when she’s with him.  When she’s with her other boyfriend, who is a mulit-millionaire, she finds herself in only the finest designer names.  Of course this book is fiction, but I’ve seen it recently in real life too. 

Too many people are afraid to lose something just because they’ve had it for so long.  It might not be the best relationship for them, but to them they don’t want to have to say they’ve wasted the past few months of their life.  So instead they just try to fit in, and I see them as different people when they are with me as opposed to their significant other.  Why are so many people afraid to be themselves?  Are they really that horrible?  I hope not and I don’t think so. Sooner or later your bf/gf will find out who you really are, and they’re going to wonder why you’ve been keeping yourself a secret.  They may even go a step further to ask: “What are they still hiding?”  Being a chameleon makes many more issues than it solves.

January 30, 2008 at 8:40 am 3 comments