Mental Models: How To Be Treated Like a Princess

April 15, 2008 at 3:51 pm 4 comments

I thought about writing this post before and after reading Treating Girls Like a Dick, I knew I had to for us girls….so here goes.  The key to getting anyone, let alone men, to treat you like a princess is your own mental model.  A mental model is your view of the world and how you act according to this view; as wikipedia states, “It is a kind of internal symbol or representation of external reality,”  Let’s break this down further with an example.  Your vision seems crystal clear until you go to the optometrist and you are given a prescription for glasses.  Once you put on the glasses you see the world in a whole new light.  Every girl has a mental model of what kind of men they think they “deserve.”  And here’s the hard part, you have to adjust your mental model if it doesn’t fit with someone treating you like a princess.  So how do you do it?

– Don’t give any attention to assholes

By giving them attention it gives them an incentive to keep up the behavior.  If you move on right away, it tells them they don’t fit your mental model and agenda of what you want for yourself.

– Reward the behavior that you deserve

When I say reward I don’t mean “throw him a treat.”  He’s not a dog.  I mean give him attention and give him the same type of courtesy in return.

Ok so that’s the basics, but how do you spot nice guys?  Well that’s easy.

1. Anyone that treats him mom and/or sisters nicely will do the same for you.  So if he talks to his mom on a regular basis and does so for the sake of keeping in contact and not asking for money this is a clear indicator.

2. Birds of a feather flock together.  If you know one nice guy, but he doesn’t do it for you, look to his friends and acquaintances.  One group you’ve probably over looked through the years are the nerds.  For the same reason that you can’t get away from assholes (mental model) nerds think anyone that talks to them is good enough for them.

3. How he treats his ex.  Does he have good relationships with his exes?  They shouldn’t be best friends, that’s an indicator he’s not over her.  Instead he shouldn’t have any hard feelings towards her and should be friendly if he does see her.

Once you’ve mastered the above, your conversations might go like one I’ve had in the past.

guy: Hi I’m so and so, what’s your name?

me: Well my daddy calls me princess.

What a response that gets…great conversation starter.  Remember lesson of the day: don’t be afraid to demand what you deserve.


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  • 1. Virgle Kent  |  April 15, 2008 at 4:48 pm

    Wow, I could really have slaughtered this post but I won’t. I’ll just say I’d think about the term “princess”. Being treated with respect is one thing but like a princess……

    Also you know who else is great at changing their mental models…. Hookers. I mean they have found out that the more you charge, the higher the price, the more guys are willing to pay for it and give them that money. Instead of calling them selves hookers they switch up and say high class escort and bam they’ve changed their mental model

  • 2. Ava V  |  April 16, 2008 at 7:40 pm

    well yeah the term princess should be taken with a grain of salt. what i really mean is someone who is treated in the way they treat everyone else. and yes, not all princesses treat people like that. sometimes they put themselves on a pedestal, and that is not at all what i mean.

    in the end you’ll always have a mental model, hopefully it’s just something positive and it matches what you want to be. it doesn’t make sense to think you deserve a great guy but never “allow” yourself to have a relationship with one.

  • 3. T.  |  April 17, 2008 at 4:40 pm

    I disagree about how a man treats his mother being indicative of anything. I know some real scumbags that love their mothers to death. Shit, look at the mafia, those guys LOVE their mothers but will treat women like shit.

  • 4. LovelySexyBeauty  |  March 8, 2009 at 7:36 pm

    Just came across this post… good one! I agree that you sort of ‘teach’ people who to treat you through your actions and reactions too.


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