Cosmo’s Best Places To Meet Men

March 11, 2008 at 9:14 am 8 comments


According to Cosmopolitan magazine, there are ten best places to meet men.

  1. Apple Store
  2. Weight Room
  3. A Fortune 500 or Tech Company
  4. A Political Rally
  5. A sports bar on Sunday or Monday Night
  6. Boston; Paradise, Nevada; Jacksonville, North Carolina
  7. A volleyball league
  8. Grad school coffee shop
  9. A rock climbing center
  10. A steak house

After examing the list myself, I can only agree with one of them: grad school coffee shop.  Let’s sort out why the rest are poor choices.

1. Apple Store – when most men are drawn to a stimulus they don’t like to be bothered with anything else.  When in a store filled with laptops, iPods, iPhones, they are there for that reason.  They don’t go there looking to meet people, so if it’s not in their head, you’d have to go really out of your way to meet them.

2. Weight Room – at school my gym has two different floors.  Most girls are on the bottom floor that is full of ellipticals, treadmills, and other cardio machines.  Upstairs is where all the guys go to lift.  There are other machines up there, but unless you’re lifting next to them there’s no use.  Most likely you’ll just get scared away by all the grunting and other strange noises that they make.

3. Fortune 500 or tech company – what a stereotype.  I think it’s safe to say you’ll meet men at a lot of jobs, obviously there are some exceptions where straight men don’t come in big numbers (hair salons, retailers, and elementary schools).  This place would be good if you’re looking for a man with money, but you’re that shallow you’re on your own.

4. Political rally – as stated in #1: when most men are drawn to a stimulus they don’t like to be bothered with anything else.  If they’re really involved in a campaign and you have no interest in it, they have no interest in you being there, you’ll just be in their way.  Don’t pretend to be a Hilary supporter at a rally, when you spend every other day hating her guts (for obvious reasons).

5. Sports Bar – as stated in #1: when most men are drawn to a stimulus they don’t like to be bothered with anything else.  As my brother once told his girlfriend, who knew nothing about football, “all you need to know is that I am busy Sunday from noon on.” If you don’t care about the game, get out of there; otherwise you’ll just seem as a nuisance.

6. Cities – again this is obvious, go to a city where there are a lot of people you’re age.  If you’re a young guy or girl find a college town, or a city like New York, D.C., Boston, etc. where a lot of people go for jobs after they graduate.  I think it’s apparent that you don’t want to be a city filled with retirement communities….it leaves you with few or no options.

7. Intramural League – not a bad choice, but the downside is that all the guys on your team will view you as a teammate and will quickly categorize you as a friend.  If want a guy to be interested in you, this is the last thing you want.  You never want to be one of the guys either.  You don’t need to be that girl diving to make a catch, stay feminine…wear cute shorts, tank top, and pigtails with bows.

8. Coffee Shop – the best choice.  It’s almost like a bar for the day time.  Lots of people bring work and let’s face it, they want to be distracted.  It’s worked for me and a friend in the past.  Give it a try.

9. Rock Climbing Center – this does not help you’re feminine factor in anyway.  You don’t want a guy to see you dripping in sweat, not your best look.

10. Steak House – what are you going to do, go up to a table of guys while they’re eating?  How ridiculous!  What was cosmo thinking?  According the the mag, the draw is: Guys are hitting up steak joints a lot these days for dinner (especially after work or a ball game) and bachelor parties.  If you’re looking for a serious relationship, I don’t think I need to tell you but, you should not meet a man at a bachelor party.

Stick to your coffee shops, meeting people through friends or friends of friends (this way you know their back story…an important key), and other non-drinking locales.  If you meet men when they’re sober, you have a better chance at a real relationship.  And I hate to say it but, if you only see a man when he and/or you are drunk forget about it.


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  • 1. dchero  |  March 11, 2008 at 12:45 pm

    Fantastic analysis, Ava. A few comments:

    1. The stimulus thing is so true. Men have one track minds.
    2. In the intramural leagues, it’s not about the games, it’s about the after parties. Oh, Kickball Girl, what happened to us….
    3. Way to call out Cosmo on the Steak House.
    4. Friend of a friends are the most money relationships in the modern world.

  • 2. Ben  |  March 11, 2008 at 9:54 pm

    I agree with dchero. The after parties are why everyone is really there. And I disagree with your thoughts on being seen only as a teammate. If you’re an attractive girl I don’t think most guys care that you’re on their team, they’ll still want to get at it.

  • 3. virgle Kent  |  March 11, 2008 at 10:35 pm

    First off I mean it’s freaking Cosmo WTF? But you said

    Rock Climbing Center – this does not help you’re feminine factor in anyway. You don’t want a guy to see you dripping in sweat, not your best look.

    shiiiiiiiiiiiit. Girl you have no idea dripping in sweat is a turn on, I mean as long as you’re one of those girls that glisten. But for real female sweat will make most men think of mating. I mean where else are you going to make a woman sweat….. that’s right…..

  • 4. Ava V  |  March 12, 2008 at 6:58 am

    of course i’m thinking of the kind of sweat that most men think girl don’t exude. not all girls glisten….most have beads of sweat dripping down their face and their shirts are all wet. whether you choose to believe it or not, some girls actually sweat as much as men.

  • 5. Sherwin  |  April 15, 2008 at 1:28 pm

    This article is crap. We don’t care where we are, if you’re cute and fun to talk to then you become priority #1. That’s what us men do. We want women. That’s all we exist for. Testosterone owns us.

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  • 7. chrystie wooley  |  September 15, 2008 at 12:47 am

    i disagree with you that participating in sports will encourage a guy to look at you as a friend. Allot of men love a great looking girl who is also athletic. Nothing wrong with a little sweat. A matter of fact it can be sexy! This is also an individual who is more active ,which means more fit. Fit peopke are happier people as a rule.

    well i guess it can be true, but that guys that didn’t see me as a friend took it easy on me, thinking that i was completely unatheltic…so i wasn’t a fan of them either

  • 8. Bryan  |  October 26, 2008 at 2:45 pm

    Men no matter what they are doing, will be more than willing to talk a girl who comes up to them and gives off an obvious sign of interest.I can’t emphasize the word obvious enough. Women are the first and foremost thing on our minds, and will switch gears in a heartbeat when a pretty girl comes up and flirts.
    Meeting a guy while he is eating food however is not a great idea, we are not much of conversationalists to begin with, never mind with food in our mouths.
    On the contrary, we do love athletic girls, and we def like the sweat. We think about this athleticism in many different lights. First and foremost we see stamina for sex.. get over it this is how we think its as natural as your period. Working out also shows your not lazy, it’s a big show for personality in the sense that most gold digging stuck up girls would not be working out. We assume simply by working out your personality does not suck, as in you get an A to start.
    Guys look for girls at bars and clubs, however in our minds we don’t plan on finding quality women there.I am sure there is,but i am sure the odds of a hot nice girl in an environment such as that is like finding a needle in a hay stack. Guys think parties, concerts, beaches, and weddings are the best place to meet quality girls.

    explain your wedding theory, because last time i checked/watched wedding crashers…it didn’t look like a quality type of scene


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