Her Own Style

February 7, 2008 at 3:51 pm 10 comments


Today I was talking to a friend about his girlfriend’s fashion.  She dresses one way for work and then completely different when she goes out.  In a post on an old blog of mine, I discussed this issue.  I think it’s important to stay who we are no matter where we go.  She if she wants to wear bohemian style dresses to work, she should.  Or if she thinks business attire is good all the time, she should.  It’s important to just be confident in what you wear, because that confidence with exude from you and will permeate others (also in another old post).  So my advice to you my friend is to like her for who she is or else this will just stay a problem for the future.

For example, if you’re bf/gf always wears a really old pair of falling apart sneakers.  My guess is you’re not gonna love it.  But if you really like them, you’ll understand what those shoes mean to them.  So instead of starting a big fight, just trying explaining that you know what those sneakers mean to them, but that there are times and places for them.  It’s a good idea to wear them around the house, when doing errands, etc.  But not a good idea to wear them out to dinner, going to the theater, etc.  There’s no need to change a person’s wardrobe for them to fit into the mold you’ve made for them.


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  • 1. dchero  |  February 8, 2008 at 1:09 am

    But the question is: how can someone be confident in something they don’t look good in? What ‘looks good’ on a girl is universally known. There are magazines dedicated to this. It’s a multi-million dollar industry. Wearing less than flattering clothing implies either a personal insecurity or a lack of fashion sense. Either way, it appears to be treatable. Right?

  • 2. Ava V  |  February 8, 2008 at 7:59 am

    But in those magazines there’s still a right way to wear different styles. They advise more how to fit your body type not exactly what you should be wearing. They always have different looks for the right way to dress: goth, prep, urban chic, hippie, etc. But most of those magazines focus on what the stars wear and base their fashion sections on that. It’s very deceiving.

  • 3. dchero  |  February 8, 2008 at 11:47 am

    No, the magazines tell you exactly what you should be wearing. You find a girl in the magazine that looks like you, then you wear the clothes she’s wearing. It’s idiot proof. If you can’t find anyone in the magazine who looks like you, then you have to lose weight until you do.

  • 4. Ava V  |  February 8, 2008 at 11:50 am

    Have you ever really read these magazines or do you just flip through them? Read the TEXT! You, youself, should know this. You went from college boy (whatever that means) to hipster. It’s not like you looked bad before it was just a different style. You are still buying clothes in the right size. You don’t need to be so hipster, because in the end it could hurt you if you just look like everyone else. In essense, this is your comfort zone. How do you like them apples?

  • 5. dchero  |  February 8, 2008 at 11:59 am

    a) I haven’t read the magazines, but I’m absolutely sure they give specific fashion advice
    b) Point taken about being a hipster
    c) You have gone off on a tangent. The main point is that a girl has no excuse to look bad. None at all. You can say she feels “more comfortable” in what she wears, but if it doesn’t look good to everyone else, it shouldn’t look good to her and she shouldn’t be confident wearing it. Wearing less than flattering clothes implies that she isn’t confident enough to look her best for whatever reason. People who aren’t comfortable looking their best are insecure.

  • 6. Ava V  |  February 8, 2008 at 12:01 pm

    a) you’re making an assumption
    b) thank you
    c) have you really asked others or are you making another assumption?

  • 7. dchero  |  February 8, 2008 at 2:37 pm

    What do I have to ask others about in the statement I made in c)? My wild theory that ‘ugly clothes = comfortable being ugly duckling = insecurity’ requires no outside input. Now you can either agree with my theory or make an equally wild theory that ‘ugly clothes = thinks it looks good = confidence’, but I just don’t buy that.

  • 8. Ava V  |  February 8, 2008 at 2:42 pm

    “but if it doesn’t look good to everyone else”…

  • 9. Ava V  |  February 8, 2008 at 2:52 pm

    wearing clothes you like = thinking you look good = confidence

  • 10. dchero  |  February 11, 2008 at 11:53 am

    well i guess we’ll have to agree to disagree, ava.


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