Partying At “The Dome”

the weekend was interesting.  i saw a lot of people i was use to seeing every saturday night at college.  i also saw a few people i wanted to avoid, but failed miserably at.  i tried to just sit there and ignore certain creepers, but apparently i had an inviting look on my face that said “come closer, and put your arm around me.”

the best thing about alumni weekend was experiencing “the dome.”  what a fitting name for an off-campus house, because as dane cook says, ”if you come there you know what the fuck’s up.”  the named dome room is actually the dj booth, the real magical room is the one behind that.  it was like being at a rave: fog machine on overload, lasers, black lights, and loud music.  but the dance floor didn’t really pick up till “i’m on a boat” came on…

shortly after a guy approaches mia madison, “will you dance with my friend he has down syndrome?”  that’s when she got scared, because he was actually something worse: a blacked out lacrosse player.  why weren’t all college parties like this?

After Hours

I really must admit working in the restaurant industry is something everyone should experience because nothing is considered off limits.  People get called out, fights happened, and polite faces are put on for customers (when I was on the phone with my friend I was saying goodbye to some customers when my friend said I’ve never heard that voice before, where did that come from?  I said it’s my polite voice and I don’t use it too often.  But at the end of the day we all end up at the same bar. 

Last night after work we all went to the bar across the street.  Before last night I’ve never gone out with people I’ve worked with, so I’ll admit I was a bit nervous about it.  But it was really fun.  And the guys don’t even stop to say “ear muffs,” they just say it.  I think I’m starting to become desensitized to things that even the thought of would usually just gross me out.  Some of the servers can be a bit strange and even creepy, like when one told me “we’re going all out for your birthday.”  How did he know my birthday was coming up?…so I asked him.  He said, “I wouldn’t be a good stalker if I didn’t know it was in July.”  And I was worried my summer wouldn’t be exciting.

I Got Gamed

 

After many months of reading some of the best blogs about game, I’m finally beginning to understand it enough to see it in my own life.  I often read the game some bloggers try on women, but I never thought about it like this till now.

Two years ago a friend and I were standing in a bar, having a not-so-great time.  At the time I thought nothing of it, I just thought that these guys just wanted to chat, but now as I reexamine the situation it’s obvious that they saw us having a bad time and used it for their own gain.  They took advantage of the situation and knew that would we would talk to any guys that showed us some attention…and of course we did.  Talking to my friend I told her I wasn’t too impressed with any of the guys at the bar.  And after they heard this they jumped right in.  They got defensive, because clearly they weren’t like most guys.  But then they did something that most girls wouldn’t think of as game…they made fun of us.  Girls, hear me now, this is how they pull you in.  To be honest, I’m not quite sure how this works, but it does…beware.  To make a long story short, we hung out with them for the rest of the night, we got gamed. 

I can’t believe I was so naive!  Now I am definitely more aware, but I’m not sure I would act differently.  Actually, I know I wouldn’t…I’ll save this story for another day.

Cosmo’s Best Places To Meet Men

 

According to Cosmopolitan magazine, there are ten best places to meet men.

1. Apple Store
2. Weight Room
3. A Fortune 500 or Tech Company
4. A Political Rally
5. A sports bar on Sunday or Monday Night
6. Boston; Paradise, Nevada; Jacksonville, North Carolina
7. A volleyball league
8. Grad school coffee shop
9. A rock climbing center
10. A steak house

After examing the list myself, I can only agree with one of them: grad school coffee shop.  Let’s sort out why the rest are poor choices.

1. Apple Store – when most men are drawn to a stimulus they don’t like to be bothered with anything else.  When in a store filled with laptops, iPods, iPhones, they are there for that reason.  They don’t go there looking to meet people, so if it’s not in their head, you’d have to go really out of your way to meet them.

2. Weight Room – at school my gym has two different floors.  Most girls are on the bottom floor that is full of ellipticals, treadmills, and other cardio machines.  Upstairs is where all the guys go to lift.  There are other machines up there, but unless you’re lifting next to them there’s no use.  Most likely you’ll just get scared away by all the grunting and other strange noises that they make.

3. Fortune 500 or tech company – what a stereotype.  I think it’s safe to say you’ll meet men at a lot of jobs, obviously there are some exceptions where straight men don’t come in big numbers (hair salons, retailers, and elementary schools).  This place would be good if you’re looking for a man with money, but you’re that shallow you’re on your own.

4. Political rally – as stated in #1: when most men are drawn to a stimulus they don’t like to be bothered with anything else.  If they’re really involved in a campaign and you have no interest in it, they have no interest in you being there, you’ll just be in their way.  Don’t pretend to be a Hilary supporter at a rally, when you spend every other day hating her guts (for obvious reasons).

5. Sports Bar – as stated in #1: when most men are drawn to a stimulus they don’t like to be bothered with anything else.  As my brother once told his girlfriend, who knew nothing about football, “all you need to know is that I am busy Sunday from noon on.” If you don’t care about the game, get out of there; otherwise you’ll just seem as a nuisance.

6. Cities – again this is obvious, go to a city where there are a lot of people you’re age.  If you’re a young guy or girl find a college town, or a city like New York, D.C., Boston, etc. where a lot of people go for jobs after they graduate.  I think it’s apparent that you don’t want to be a city filled with retirement communities….it leaves you with few or no options.

7. Intramural League – not a bad choice, but the downside is that all the guys on your team will view you as a teammate and will quickly categorize you as a friend.  If want a guy to be interested in you, this is the last thing you want.  You never want to be one of the guys either.  You don’t need to be that girl diving to make a catch, stay feminine…wear cute shorts, tank top, and pigtails with bows.

8. Coffee Shop – the best choice.  It’s almost like a bar for the day time.  Lots of people bring work and let’s face it, they want to be distracted.  It’s worked for me and a friend in the past.  Give it a try.

9. Rock Climbing Center – this does not help you’re feminine factor in anyway.  You don’t want a guy to see you dripping in sweat, not your best look.

10. Steak House – what are you going to do, go up to a table of guys while they’re eating?  How ridiculous!  What was cosmo thinking?  According the the mag, the draw is: Guys are hitting up steak joints a lot these days for dinner (especially after work or a ball game) and bachelor parties.  If you’re looking for a serious relationship, I don’t think I need to tell you but, you should not meet a man at a bachelor party.

Stick to your coffee shops, meeting people through friends or friends of friends (this way you know their back story…an important key), and other non-drinking locales.  If you meet men when they’re sober, you have a better chance at a real relationship.  And I hate to say it but, if you only see a man when he and/or you are drunk forget about it.